Probably the number one problem that I see as a trainer and rehabilitator of trouble and aggressive dogs is the emotions they receive from their owners. As humans we put human emotions onto the dog, and this confuses the dog. As humans we function in a human world and strive for equality. We feel safe when we are loved and are all equal. Dogs, do NOT ascribe to this notion. However, we as humans, continue to try and force it upon the dogs. If this is not cruelty, I don’t know what is.
A dog functions in a hierarchical world. The stronger dog makes the rules, protects the weaker, decides who fights, who plays, where they go and controls their lives. Its not a community of free love. The dog does not function well in this environment. They become confused and that leads to dominance struggles. If you don’t control the dog, the dog will act out and this can lead to behaviors that can become dangerous. They jump up, chew, bark, bite and a plethora of other issues. Its cute in the beginning and when it becomes annoying the dog is cast out. Also the jumping and “play biting” is cute when the dog is small, but this sets a dangerous precedent. If you’re dealing with Cockapoos, Teacup Poodles and the like its cute, if you’re dealing with Pit Bulls, Chows, Shepherds, etc… its scary.
A dog that does not have a structured life is unpredictable. I’ve had several dogs lunge at me and test the barriers with me. All this stems from the fact that they received love at a time when they needed structure, they were given freedom when they needed training. People think that training a dog is cruel and selfish. Unfortunately these people are clueless as to what a dog needs and are selfish themselves. EVERY dog I’ve ever worked with is ecstatic to start training and has a great time during training sessions and is happy afterwards. As much as it would be cruel to slap a collar on a 3 year old child and make him walk on a leash, it is equally cruel NOT to do this to a young dog. Walking on a leash forms a strong bond with you and your dog. Any dog that will eventually be expected to listen off leash, should start on a leash first. You control his environment, protect him, lead him and care for him. From this he will love you, because he respects you. If you give him structure and guidance, he will love you. If you give him freedom, he is not capable of loving you.
DO NOT make the assumption that because your dog is cute that he is a stuffed animal that wants to roll around on the ground and cuddle with you. All dogs, regardless of size or breed are hard wired with strong instincts and drives. A good trainer will use these instincts and drives to develop a structure that works for the particular dog. I stress here that all dogs are not the same. Each dog requires a unique approach, however ALL dogs have similar instincts. To understand this is to understand what the dog needs, NOT what you need from your dog.
Focus on what your dog needs from you and ask yourself if you are capable of giving that to your dog. That is being a responsible partner for your canine friend.